Men don’t necessarily need you to make the first move, but they do need you to help them along by giving them the okay to approach. Here’s how to get him to make the first move.
Guys Get Nervous Too
Did you know that 70% of men find it difficult to approach someone they don’t know and 78% of men feel nervous approaching someone they’re attracted to?
One of the questions I’m most frequently asked by women is where have all the genuine guys gone? Believe it or not, single, educated, intelligent and available men are everywhere, you’re just not giving them a reason to come up to you.
When it comes to him making the first move, the scales are already against you, with guys making up every excuse under the sun as to why they shouldn’t approach. After all, rejection hurts, and it can often feel easier to avoid connection altogether. (Sound familiar?)
Dr. Moore studied the signals women send to get a man’s attention and found that women make the first move (that is send out the green light signals) around two-thirds of the time. The study also found that the more positive green light signals you send out, the more attractive you become.
How To Give Him The Green Light
If you want to give him the green light, get into his flirting zone or closer than 1.5 meters away and lock eyes with him. Give him your flirtiest smile and hold eye contact for up to four seconds before looking away. This will send a subconscious signal to his brain that you’re interested and send a shot of the adrenaline like substance Phenylethylamine or PEA which is the hormone that is released when we’re in love or lust rushing through his veins.
After twenty seconds looking back, give him your flirtiest smile and think the words ‘You’re gorgeous’. Your body will send out over 10,000 signals that say ‘Come and talk to me’.
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Katia Loisel is an internationally recognised dating, relationship and body language expert with over 19 years experience in the TV Industry. She is the co-author of the bestselling How To Get The Man/Woman You Want and has conducted a widely published five-year global study into dating and mating patterns.
A sought after media commentator, spokesperson and host, Katia has been interviewed over 1,000 times by media outlets worldwide. Her production credits include programme creation, development and production of various dating and relationship related TV shows for the Australian and US market and a global online ‘how to’ campaign for the dating and relationship market that generated over 12 million views.
Katia is the Founder of The Love Destination, and is on a mission to empower and inspire, bringing more love and good news into the world.