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Learn how to be alone.

If you can’t stand being alone with yourself, how do you expect anyone else to want to be alone with you? Only when you can be alone with yourself and actually like it, can you expect to attract someone you’d want to spend time with. The irony is, once you actually enjoy your own company, dating isn’t such a priority anymore.

There are a lot of reasons for not wanting to be alone with yourself, usually it’s because you’re trying to avoid dealing with an issue or facing a situation, in other words; denial.

Chances are these issues, if resolved, will make your life a lot better in a lot of ways, so it is worth every moment of discomfort. But I know, easier said than done.

When we’re comfortable with ourselves we exude a confidence that is very attractive to everybody. The little things we used to panic over just disappear, for example; the awkward silence in a conversation, when neither you or your date can find anything to say. They’re only awkward because you’re dwelling on them, you’re trying desperately to think of something clever or funny to say to break the ice. We know very well that our best lines come at about 3:00 am. They wake us up in the middle of the night and we moan; ‘why couldn’t I have thought of that during dinner?’

When we over-think things we make them bigger in our minds.

If we actually get right down to it, we usually find it’s not such a big deal after all. There never was a bogeyman under your bed, just a shadow that disappeared when you turned the light on. Turning the light on, exposing the fear for what it is makes it powerless, but conquering that fear makes US very powerful!

So, try to make a habit of checking in with yourself every day. If you find yourself irked by something, give it some thought. Usually the things that bother us about another person, are the very things we don’t like about ourselves. Our inner turmoil, for lack of a better word, is always expressed in our environment. Once we learn to read the signs, the better able we are to vanquish the thought demons. This makes us lighter and a lot more fun to be around – and who doesn’t want to be around fun people?