Let’s talk about the body language of kissing. Want to know the surefire signs they want to kiss you? Here are the 9 signs they want to kiss you right now.
There’s nothing quite like those delicious moments before that first kiss. Waves of desire bounce invisibly between you as you inch ever so slightly closer. Your eyes lock, lips part, and your first kiss hangs in the air like an unspoken promise. Time stands still and everything else begins to fade away. At that moment, there is only the two of you.
A world of possibilities awaits… but only if one of you makes the first move.
So how do you know for sure that they want to kiss you?
When it comes to how to kiss and the language of love, actions speak louder than words. In fact, over 99 per cent of emotional communication during courtship is communicated non-verbally through silent love signals.
Looking for a relationship? It might be time to brush up on your body language skills and learn the non-verbal language of love.
But before the body language of kissing. First…
The first step to understanding the body language of kissing and how to know if someone is interested (or wants to kiss you) is to look for a cluster of at least three to five simultaneous (green light) signals that indicate initial interest.
9 Signs They Want To Kiss You
You’re inches apart, the chemistry is amazing but you’re still not sure if they want to kiss you. Here are the 9 signs they want to kiss you:
1. Lingering eyes
They say that eyes are windows to the soul, and for a good reason. Sticky eyes (that seemingly breathe you in) are a universal courtship signal indicating attraction, but that’s not all that they reveal. Pay attention to where their eyes rest for clues about their intentions. If they keep looking at your mouth and let their eyes linger there, they’re wondering what it would be like to kiss you.
2. They have droopy bedroom eyes
Droopy bedroom eyes are an indication of “rest and digest”- a parasympathetic response that induces a relaxed state and gets our body ready for a sexual encounter.
3. They lean into you
The forward lean is a primitive subconscious response controlled by the orientating reflex (OR). The OR kicks in automatically when you see someone you like, causing our muscles to contract to bring us closer to kiss.
They move their head closer to yours
This move into your intimate space is a surefire signal that they’re keen to kiss you. If you’re not sure, brush your lips on their cheek. If they move their face towards yours you’ve been given the green light.
4. They touch your face
Touching the face is a very intimate gesture and suggests that they’d like to get closer to you emotionally and physically (and can be an indicator of relationship potential and commitment). If their hand or fingers touch or linger on your lips, no further signals are required.
5. The head tilt
The head tilt and bearing of the neck is a primitive sign that indicates interest and vulnerability and gives you the non-verbal green light to approach (or get a little closer).
6. Their lips part
There’s no denying that the lips are central to kissing, but did you know that their lips can also reveal their intentions? Sexual attraction and desire can temporarily block brain impulses that control the lower jaw, causing the jaw to drop and lips to part. On the other hand, our lips tend to disappear (or become closed and tight) when we’re experiencing negative emotion or just not into someone.
7. They touch, lick or bite their lips whilst looking at you
Constant autoerotic touching of the lips is a tell-tale sign that their lips are tingling with excitement and that they may be wondering what it would be like to kiss you. Attraction causes our lips to engorge with blood making them ultra-sensitive to touch. Watch their stroke style for clues on how they’d like to be kissed. If their touch is light and feathery, gently caress their lips with yours to leave them begging for more.
A word of caution: lip biting can communicate both negative emotion and arousal; however, trust your instincts, as we are pre-wired to ‘feel’ the difference. Other clues include their level of eye contact and the shape of their mouth. During arousal, a lip bite is normally accompanied with flirty eye contact and upturned lips.
8. They face you with their foot between your legs
Positioning their foot between your legs is an indication of comfort and attraction and may be a ploy to get into your intimate space. How close they’d like to get depends on how close your respective groins are. If they’ve positioned their front foot between your legs, so that both your groins are touching, they’re already thinking about what it would be like to be physically intimate with you.
9. They begin blinking (a lot)
A rapid blink rate suggests that they’re psychologically aroused (or excited) and you’ve got their attention. When we see something we like (or are thinking about that kiss) a surge of dopamine is released into our vision centres causing our blink rate to increase, sometimes up to seven times the normal rate. So if their blink rate suddenly increases as you get closer, keep a look out for the other green light signals that reveal they might want to kiss you.
Many gestures and expressions can have multiple meanings so if you want to know if they’re interested (and want to kiss you), always look for a combination of increased proximity, eye contact and touch.
Last but (definitely) not least, always test the waters before jumping in for that first kiss.
Love Katia x
Katia Loisel is an internationally recognised dating, relationship and body language expert with over 19 years experience in the TV Industry. She is the co-author of the bestselling How To Get The Man/Woman You Want and has conducted a widely published five-year global study into dating and mating patterns.
A sought after media commentator, spokesperson and host, Katia has been interviewed over 1,000 times by media outlets worldwide. Her production credits include programme creation, development and production of various dating and relationship related TV shows for the Australian and US market and a global online ‘how to’ campaign for the dating and relationship market that generated over 12 million views.
Katia is the Founder of The Love Destination, and is on a mission to empower and inspire, bringing more love and good news into the world.