When it comes to relationships, kissing really is the glue that binds. Kissing is one of the most powerful and intimate forms of non-verbal communication, shown to dramatically increase intimacy and improve relationship satisfaction.
And yet it’s one of the first things to go in long-term relationships
Research shows that one in five married couples kiss less than once a month and that for 40% of them, that kiss lasts a mere five seconds. Not a great recipe for love.
Why is Kissing so Important in Relationships?
Whilst numerous studies have shown that women place more importance on kissing than men, (using kissing as a form of mate selection and a way to initiate, maintain and evaluate the health of their relationship), kissing has been shown to help rekindle the love in both men and women.
Kissing Increases Connection and Attraction
While the stresses of everyday life can take their toll on your relationship, research shows that kissing increases connection and attraction. It gives us a boost of the cuddle hormone oxytocin. Helping us to bond, and it reduces conflict and stress. Now that’s a good recipe for love.
Couples who kiss frequently are also more likely to experience additional benefits from increased touch, eye contact and intimacy.
Kissing Decreases Stress Levels and Increases Relationship Satisfaction
Researchers at Arizona State University found that couples asked to kiss more frequently over a period of six weeks reported higher perceived relationship satisfaction, and decreased cholesterol levels and stress.
The couples that upped their daily kissing intake also reported lower levels of conflict and arguing than the control group.
In another study by by researchers at Lafayette College, Those who kissed their partner for 15 minutes recorded lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol than those who talked or held hands for the same period.
Kissing can also provide important information about the health of your relationship.
So, If you’re coupled up and always on the receiving end of a closed mouth kiss or peck on the cheek from your partner, with little of anything else it might be a sign of a lack of intimacy and underlying issues in your relationship.
Take the Time to Reconnect and Pucker up
It’s important to take the time to reconnect physically and emotionally with your partner, as lack of intimacy and affection is one of the main reasons that couples stray. So take the lead and pucker up with a five second passionate kiss each day. It will help you to destress, relax and feel more connected and in love.
Katia Loisel is an internationally recognised dating, relationship and body language expert with over 19 years experience in the TV Industry. She is the co-author of the bestselling How To Get The Man/Woman You Want and has conducted a widely published five-year global study into dating and mating patterns.
A sought after media commentator, spokesperson and host, Katia has been interviewed over 1,000 times by media outlets worldwide. Her production credits include programme creation, development and production of various dating and relationship related TV shows for the Australian and US market and a global online ‘how to’ campaign for the dating and relationship market that generated over 12 million views.
Katia is the Founder of The Love Destination, and is on a mission to empower and inspire, bringing more love and good news into the world.